I have been telling myself, I am
the worth the wait, I may not be the prettiest but I have a lot to offer for my
future husband. Lately though, I am not feeling great about myself, about my
life. I am my biggest critic and I know I am a work in progress but I just think
that there are too much to work on. So, to calm me down, not to over think the
future, just keeping my faith to God because God is so invested in my happiness
he won’t let me down, I did a short soul-searching. Instead of me thinking what
the root cause is why I am still single, instead of looking for my Mr. Right, I
have decided to be Ms. Right and eventually, God will lead my Ian
Veneracion-type of a husband (I really do not have a crush on Ian Veneracion
but I had a dream that my husband who loves very much looks like him). So here
we have the 10 things that I should become before I consider myself as Ms.
Right.
11 I have to be happy. A relationship will
not make a person happy. An unhappy single when in a relationship or get
married will just be an unhappy person in a relationship / unhappy married
person. Your partner should compliment you not complete you.
22 I have to be financially free. I want
to give the best for my future kids and I am not really the type of woman who
wants to depend 100% to her man especially financially and so I have to make
sure that all my debts and what not are taken care of.
33 I have to be 105 lbs. That has always
been the dream.
44 I have to have paid my dues and have done
my part in volunteering or breaking my heart for the less fortunate. If
anyone knows the story of Bo Sanchez, how he lived with old people for three
years, I want to do something like that but not actually living my job. I just
basically want to give something that I have, which is my money, my talent and
my time. I am more of an action type of person. I just don’t want to give to church;
I really want to do something about it.
55 I have to have a very good and close
relationship to God. When you love someone or when you are in a
relationship, God should be the center of it. I think that’s the secret of a
happy marriage. I cannot inspire and disciple someone to be close to God if I
am not.
66 I have to be healthy. There is only one
me and I have to take care of myself. I need to ensure that I am healthy. If I
am healthy, eventually, everything in the outside will fix itself.
77 I have to have taken care of my vices or at
least control them. This is something that I have been focusing on lately.
I really don’t want to talk about them right now but hopefully when the time
comes to be with my Mr. Right, I do not have vices.
88 I have to be secured. I had issues in
the past with my insecurity and I am proud that I have taken care of that after
battling with self-esteem issues for most of my life but we’ll never know if it
comes back and becomes an obstacle in my relationship.
99 I have to learn how to love. I mean
romantically, I seem to have approached life and relationship like a business
transaction where in I should always get my ‘return of investment’. I don’t know
how to explain it but I just hope I can love again the way that I loved before
wherein I will just love and not wait for anything in return.
110 I have to start my wedding fund. Again,
I do not want to be financially dependent on my husband so it’s best to be
prepared.