10 things that I should have become or done before I get married

I have been telling myself, I am the worth the wait, I may not be the prettiest but I have a lot to offer for my future husband. Lately though, I am not feeling great about myself, about my life. I am my biggest critic and I know I am a work in progress but I just think that there are too much to work on. So, to calm me down, not to over think the future, just keeping my faith to God because God is so invested in my happiness he won’t let me down, I did a short soul-searching. Instead of me thinking what the root cause is why I am still single, instead of looking for my Mr. Right, I have decided to be Ms. Right and eventually, God will lead my Ian Veneracion-type of a husband (I really do not have a crush on Ian Veneracion but I had a dream that my husband who loves very much looks like him). So here we have the 10 things that I should become before I consider myself as Ms. Right.

11    I have to be happy. A relationship will not make a person happy. An unhappy single when in a relationship or get married will just be an unhappy person in a relationship / unhappy married person. Your partner should compliment you not complete you.

22     I have to be financially free. I want to give the best for my future kids and I am not really the type of woman who wants to depend 100% to her man especially financially and so I have to make sure that all my debts and what not are taken care of.

33     I have to be 105 lbs. That has always been the dream.

44     I have to have paid my dues and have done my part in volunteering or breaking my heart for the less fortunate. If anyone knows the story of Bo Sanchez, how he lived with old people for three years, I want to do something like that but not actually living my job. I just basically want to give something that I have, which is my money, my talent and my time. I am more of an action type of person. I just don’t want to give to church; I really want to do something about it.

55     I have to have a very good and close relationship to God. When you love someone or when you are in a relationship, God should be the center of it. I think that’s the secret of a happy marriage. I cannot inspire and disciple someone to be close to God if I am not.

66    I have to be healthy. There is only one me and I have to take care of myself. I need to ensure that I am healthy. If I am healthy, eventually, everything in the outside will fix itself.

77     I have to have taken care of my vices or at least control them. This is something that I have been focusing on lately. I really don’t want to talk about them right now but hopefully when the time comes to be with my Mr. Right, I do not have vices.

88     I have to be secured. I had issues in the past with my insecurity and I am proud that I have taken care of that after battling with self-esteem issues for most of my life but we’ll never know if it comes back and becomes an obstacle in my relationship.  

99    I have to learn how to love. I mean romantically, I seem to have approached life and relationship like a business transaction where in I should always get my ‘return of investment’. I don’t know how to explain it but I just hope I can love again the way that I loved before wherein I will just love and not wait for anything in return.

110 I have to start my wedding fund. Again, I do not want to be financially dependent on my husband so it’s best to be prepared.